The sound of Resolution, I must admit, makes me somewhat clingy and uncomfortable. I am naturally a spontaneous person, and I get quickly excited at the try of new things. More often than not, my enthusiasm fizzles away so fast, just as my excitement began. In the past, I have made so many resolutions and haven’t always followed through on them. I have made resolutions on diet and exercise, budgeting and financial planning, priorities, balance, or just completing a to-do list before the end of the day.
I have failed enough times and didn’t feel like trying out resolutions anymore. However, I have learned to embrace resolution as something that will enable me to recheck and recreate some of the actions/attitudes I would like to see in my life for the best. Therefore, I am committing to remind myself that I am better today than yesterday, consistently.
Below, I have listed 10 Resolutions for my marriage/relationship, which can serve as a guide to your making beautiful marriage/relationship resolutions. This year let us strive to commit to our decisions with the help of the Holy Spirit.
I resolve to demonstrate being patient with my spouse.
Love helps give your spouse permission to be human. It understands that everyone fails daily. So, when my spouse makes a mistake, I will choose to give him enough time to correct it patiently.” Love helps give your spouse permission to be human. It understands that everyone fails daily. So when my spouse makes a mistake, I will choose to give him enough time to correct it patiently.”
Patience gives you the ability to hold on during tough times in your relationship and not bailing out under pressure. Ephesians 4:2 demands, “Be completely humble and gentle, be patient, bearing with one another in love.”
I resolve to communicate kindly with my spouse.
Communication is one of the vital keys to every successful relationship. Human beings are moved by words and actions well-communicated. Resolve to be a better communicator with your spouse, especially with word responses. Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
I resolve to Forgive and Forget.
I am committed to forgive and forget my spouse when he apologizes. It is easy to bear grudges to prove that you were pretty hurt, yet letting go can lead you to become a better person for your spouse and your family.” I am committed to forgive and forget my spouse when he apologizes. It is easy to bear grudges to prove that you were pretty hurt, yet letting you become a better person for your spouse and your family.
Ephesians 4:32 obliges, “And be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God also in Christ forgave you.”
I resolve to make more time for my spouse.
Though we are busy and have to work, resolving to spend time with each other, whether it be date nights or spending time at home, is worth it. I was made to create a calendar by one of our mentors, and on the schedule, he wanted to see the time I reserved for my husband every day. He also needed me to tell my husband that that was a time I have reserved for him (makes them feel special as they are). So whatever it will be- date nights, Netflix and Chill, travel without the kids, absolutely make out time and spend it together. The most precious gift you can give to your spouse is your time.
I resolve to seek God together with my spouse.
I make family devotions a thing in my home. Find out the best time that works for you and your spouse to pray and study the word together. Seeking and finding God together is the best habit to cultivate this new year. Jesus Christ says, “Seek ye the kingdom of God first, and everything else will be added to you.” Matt 6:33 Commit to reading and studying the word of God every day. Find a devotional book or resource that will give you some guidance. Pray together, grow together.
I resolve to appreciate my spouse often.
A wise person once said, “When you appreciate something, the value grows.” We need to apply this to our spouses. When we appreciate them, they will begin to add value to their lives and ours. You can appreciate their kind thoughts/gestures towards you with just a “Thank you! “and this can go a very long way.
I resolve to honor my spouse.
Resolving to honor my spouse means beginning to show greater honor to my spouse above my usual tendency to show honor. It starts by listening more attentively and respectfully to my spouse.” Resolving to honor my spouse means beginning to show greater honor to my spouse above my usual tendency to show honor. It starts by listening more attentively and respectfully to my spouse.
Let your spouse see how you give higher weight to their words and requests. Show that he or she is receiving higher esteem in your eyes than was obtainable before.
I resolve to build better intimacy with my spouse.
Often, when we hear intimacy in marriage, the only thing that comes to our minds is sex. However, sex shouldn’t be the only special thing you and your spouse have. Resolve to build emotional intimacy with your spouse. Determine today to guard your mate’s secrets (unless they are dangerous to them or for you to keep) and to pray for them. Please talk with your spouse and listen with acceptance, opening up to them as well. Make them feel safe.
I resolve to go back to the beginning, where we started.
Find that one thing that you loved about your spouse that allowed you to agree to spend your life with them. Focus on that thing. That thing that spurs you to appreciate them for being in your life. Discuss it with your spouse and learn to re-live them.
I resolve to live with grace and complain less.
Grace is the unmerited favor of God. You deserve grace. I deserve grace. We all deserve grace. Your home may not be what you want it to be at the moment. You may be going through a difficult season in your marriage right now with all the chores you need to do, the stresses to handle, the arguments to settle, and the disorder to navigate.
Maybe in your estimation, your home is the last place where you think peace can ever really dwell. The grace of God is enough. It is enough for you to extend it to your spouse. It is enough to strive and to wait and allow God to fight for you, and then you let the peace of God, which passes all understanding to overwhelm you.
What resolutions for your marriage will you be adding to this list?
Peace and Blessings