How do you Build the Courage to Leave an Abusive Partner?
It can be challenging to see the way out when you’re in an abusive relationship. However, you don’t have to be trapped in a relationship with an abusive partner.
Discover how to separate yourself from them in a safe way by using these strategies:
- Understand why you stay. You can’t gain the courage to leave until you understand why you’re still in that relationship. Are these reasons preventing you from leaving?
- Perhaps you’re staying out of fear.
- In other cases, you may feel stuck in the relationship because it’s the only thing you have right now. But, despite the issues, it’s a familiar place. You may even feel secure in the familiarity.
- You might even stay because you feel that you deserve the punishment. You’re worried that you won’t be able to find someone else who is better. And, because of the abuse, you may feel responsible for the situation.
- In addition, perhaps you believe that you can fix the issues. For example, you may think that if you love your partner enough, they will stop being abusive.
- Strengthen your self-esteem. Low self-esteem is at the root of many abusive relationships. Increasing your confidence and self-esteem will help you gain the courage to leave the abuser. You can start by acknowledging that your self-esteem needs work.
- Look for causes for your low self-esteem. Were your parent’s perfectionists who expected too much from you? Did you feel inadequate growing up or at work? Once you have the answers, you can work to resolve your feelings about your past. You can put the past in the past and ensure that these negative feelings don’t affect who you are today.
- To raise your self-esteem, do a nice thing for yourself each day. Pay attention to what others say about you that is positive. Journal about it or take notes, so you always have a reminder of your positive aspects.
- Get outside help. It may benefit you to get help from friends, family, or others. You may need to turn to therapy or a doctor. In some cases, you will need outside help to leave an abusive relationship.
- Your friends, family, coworkers, or others may be able to assist you so you won’t be alone and can develop the courage to leave. There may also be community resources, nonprofits, and organizations that can help.
- Figure out your finances. Are you scared to leave your partner because you depend on them financially? If you know that you’re financially secure.
- When you have a job, set money aside that your abuser can’t access. You can also ask friends or family to contribute to your savings.
- When you have to be more creative when you don’t have a job, you may be able to save money from the stipends you receive. You may be able to sell some items.
- Even if you’re not sure about your finances, you can make plans for the future. Prepare for a job that can support you after this relationship ends.
You don’t have to stay with an abusive partner out of fear. Relationships can be difficult to end, but it’s not impossible. Figure out a way to escape and leave them, even if you need someone to help you do it. Some resources and people can help you get out of your abusive situation and start a healthier life.